Why I Love 'Insecure'

Insecure is the most refreshing show I've watched all year.

Seeing college educated black women brunch, club, date, and kill it at work. Seeing AKA sorority paraphernalia on Molly's desk and Issa tying her scarf at night to lay those edges. I love seeing us be us, in all of our black girl glory. From the frustrations of the millennial dating scene, to code switching at work, to the real life best friend drama we've all experienced first hand. It feels so good to watch black women on the small screen, not as caricatures, stereotypes, or type casts, but as real human beings, with flaws and complexity and beauty and humor, living and learning as they navigate through life.

I grew up with Girlfriends, featuring the intricately diverse personalities of Joan, Toni, Lynn, and Mya. I was a little too young at the time to appreciate everything the show spoke about when it originally aired, but the older I become, and as the reruns became more frequent, the more I began to love it. It was the perfect mirror of the modern black woman, who takes her career just as seriously as she does her freshly installed weave; the ones who eat sushi and caviar right before heading to the hole in the wall poetry slam. 

Earlier this year I wondered to myself, "why aren't there more shows like Girlfriends?" As much as I love my Sunday night Real Housewives of Atlanta fix and my not-so-secret guilty pleasure Bad Girls Club, it's nothing like seeing everyday life situations portrayed on my television screen. You know, the ones that make you say, "YES! That's so me."  And in walks Insecure, from the brilliant mind of Issa Rae, our favorite awkward black girl.

As a single black female, I see myself looking back at me whenever I press play. I love ratchet clubs just as much I love slaying business meetings. I too have that "what if" guy that often pops up in my head without an invitation. And after a long, crazy night out with my friends, brunch is always on the menu. Insecure is the unapologetic, awkward, fabulous, career-driven, hopeless romantic, black girl anthem. It shows that although we're magical, we're human, just like everyone else.

And while Issa and Molly and the rest of the Insecure crew make mistakes, are seemingly all over the place at times, and are always forcing you to scream at your TV screen "get it together, girl!" — they are us and we are them, and it's so beautiful to watch.