Choose Happy: My Favorite Ways To Raise My Vibe
I used to be a very passive person. Whenever I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, I figured it was just "one of those days." I would oblige and let the day run me however it saw fit. If I was in a bad mood, I'd sulk and feel comfortable in it for as long as it would have me. The same went for good days. If I woke up smiling and excited, because I had a good dream or I was looking forward to brunch or for any other random reason, I'd accept it and enjoy it for as long as my good mood lasted.
In essence I was letting life happen to me. Good moods. Bad moods. Good days. Bad days. I didn't pick them. I just accepted them.
And when you accept something as your norm, you give it permission to stay -- you even give it a bit of control over your life.
"Misery loves company" isn't just about bitter people wanting to be around other bitter people. It's letting one small moment ruin an entire day. It's surrounding yourself with negative messages, music, and energy to feed your anger instead of finding a way to make it better. It's choosing apathy over happy.
Now I've decided to stop letting life happen to me, to stop letting unhappiness, anger, and other self-denigrating emotions rule the day, so long as I can help it. We're powerful, and we don't give ourselves enough credit for how much of our lives we really do control. You really can choose your own vibration.
"Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be."
I totally get it. Bad days come. I know this because I was having an amazing morning before I found out my dad died. A good day turned into the worst day of my life. And it took a while before I could smile again. I'm not one of those super unrealistic people who thinks in sunshines and rainbows 24/7 and ignores the reality of the world. Life can indeed suck sometimes.
But since we know bad things are kind of inevitable and that life sometimes brings pain and sadness whether we ask for it or not, isn't it more productive to make the most out of our good days? Personally, I want to give myself as many opportunities to enjoy life as possible, instead of succumbing to all of the reasons and excuses not to.
Because I'm on a journey of designing a beautiful life, I'm really focused on raising my vibe and keeping my vibe as high as possible on an hour-to-hour and day-to-day basis. So I wanted to share a few of my favorite ways to do it. You can do this when you're feeling good to maintain your high energy, and you can especially do it when you're feeling low and need a pick me up.
I've been meditating for about a year now, and it's probably the number one catalyst for all the change I've seen in my life. I always thought meditation was just something monks in other countries did to communicate with God or something my mom would do when she didn't want me or my dad bothering her. And those are both accurate. Meditating is a self-love session centered around whatever you need it to be. Feeling down? Meditate. Need clarity? Meditate. Heartbroken? Meditate. Can't sleep? Meditate. Feeling irritated? Meditate. Want to manifest winning a million dollars? Meditate. It's just you and your thoughts alone in peaceful serenity. When I want to raise my vibe, I love listening to meditations about abundance, peace, or self-love, and I usually always come out of it feeling great.
Because I'm still pretty new to it (a year seems really short in comparison to those who have been doing it for decades like monks and my mom), I typically choose guided meditations on YouTube -- aka meditations where the person tells you what to do. But there are plenty other types, such as subliminals, sleep meditations, peaceful sounds like waves or wind chimes, binaural beats, and even plain ole silence.
The old saying "you look good, you feel good" continues to ring true. When I want to feel better, one of the first things I do is take a shower, spritz some perfume, do a skincare routine, do my makeup, and do my hair. Sometimes I'll end up going out. Other times I may just slip on a silk robe and sit on the couch. Either way, I'm looking a million times better and feeling more refreshed.
I've been depressed. And when you're depressed there's nothing more comforting than laying in your messy room in a 4 day old hoodie with yesterday's ketchup stains and your hair that hasn't seen conditioner in God knows how long. But I promise - if you can get to feeling just a little bit more confident, even it's just as superficial as putting on makeup, you can feel better.
"Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together." — Elizabeth Taylor
Take Myself On A Date
After I get dressed, I usually don't want to waste a good face beat or a good curl, so I'll go eat and/or drink somewhere by myself. I choose a place with a nice atmosphere, preferably with a bar, and of course, good food and drinks. Getting up and out of the house feels amazing, and not having to wait on anyone (and being able to go home whenever I'm ready) feels even better.
Sure, there are times when sitting at home, ordering pizza, and binge watching something on Netflix feeds my soul. But I also recognize there are other times when I need to turn off the TV, put on something cute, and go be great outside.
Besides, you never know who you'll meet or what cool things you'll find and see when you're out and about looking and feeling good.
Buy Myself Flowers
Similar to taking myself on a date, I like to buy myself flowers. Someone once told me gorgeous blooms aren't just for Valentine's Day and a lady can and should always buy some herself. So whenever I want a quick pick me up, I go to the grocery store and get some roses (or a nice bouquet arrangement if I see one). You could even take it up a notch and patron a local flower shop (#shopsmall).
They're not as expensive as you might think, and if you water them and treat them well, they can last a couple weeks. It's a simple, lovely little way I like to upgrade my space and to cheer myself up.
If you don't like flowers, swap this out with something you do like, such as Edible Arrangements, a box of chocolates, a massage, whatever. The point is -- treat yourself. Even if there's no reason for it at all except for brightening your own day.
Listening To High Vibe Playlists
I don't know anyone who doesn't like music. But sometimes music can draw us further down into our own misery. When I'm going through a break up, listening to Adele feels like a must. I'm feeling sad, so I need to listen to music that makes me feel sadder. Wait, what?!
We're so accustomed to this thinking that it becomes our normal reaction to everything that happens in life. Like attracts like. If I'm feeling sad, I need more sadness to join in.
Instead I've grown to love listening to music that actually makes me feel happy, confident, and more alive. Instead of listening to Adele (who I love, don't get me wrong) when I'm feeling low, I listen to an album that matches the vibe I want to be in. Let's say I want to feel like strength, I'll listen to a few tracks of Lemonade. If I want to feel like youthful optimism and high energy, I'll listen to Chloe and Halle. If I want to feel like money and success, I'll listen to a combo of Drake and Rick Ross.
Yes, sometimes you need a good cry. Sometimes listening to an artist speak to your situation through their music can help and be really therapeutic. But if it's just making you feel worse, try listening to a new album instead or that old mixtape that always made you feel happy. Music truly does make you feel something, so choose something good.
I loved arts and crafts when I was a kid, but somewhere between the busyness of college and the responsibilities of adulting, I stopped making stuff. So lately I've been tapping back into it. Doing DIY projects are a great way to raise your vibe because they're usually pretty cheap to do (so you don't have to splurge on a fancy dinner if you don't have it), they bring back that childlike nostalgia of being in arts class and letting your creativity run wild, and above all, they're really fun.
Releasing creative energy helps to lower anxiety and seeing something through from start to finish is a huge confidence booster, even if it's something small.
You can find cool DIY tutorials on Pinterest and YouTube, from home decor to homemade gifts. Whether you make it a hobby, or just make something special one time, I'm sure it'll put you in a better, more relaxed mood.
So try out one of these vibe raising activities or do something completely different that you love. Either way, know that you can improve your own mood and brighten your own day, if you allow yourself to. Choose happy!
How do you raise your vibe? Have any special routines? Let me know!